Hello all of my bloggy friends! I hope you are all having a fantastic Wednesday morning…it’s only 2 days until the weekend so that is reason enough to be in a great mood! This morning, I am linking up again with Sheila over at “To Love, Honor and Vaccum” for another ‘Wifey Wednesday’ post. I love talking about marriage [and parenting, of course] and especially ways to improve said marriage. Maybe one day I will write a couple of best-selling novels of my own. But for now, I’ll stick with Sheila and her topic for the day-Working your Strengths.
I admit, there are many times that I get frustrated with my beloved husband. I get aggravated about the clothes he so carefully leaves on the bedroom floor…right beside the towel he used in the shower. Or the fact that he doesn’t really like to talk about work when he gets home and he can’t understand why I do. [Could be because my main audience for the day is a 1 year old with a love for Mickey Mouse and Handy Manny…a little adult conversation at the end of the day keeps me sane.] Similarly, I can gaurantee you that it drives him crazy when I nag him about said clothes and towel; when I complain about having to wash dishes after supper or give Noah another bath before bedtime.
Marriage is all about give and take. It’s about focusing on the good and working together to over come the bad. As Sheila has said in today’s post, it’s about focusing on the strengths in your marriage. The things that you are good at and make your marriage, well, your marriage.
For us, it’s the little things. The smallest of minute details. It’s the way we work together to make things easier and happy in our home. It’s the way that Josh lets me do all of the decorating in our home…not because he doesn’t want to listen to me nag about it, but because well, 1) he doesn’t care that much and 2) because he trusts me well enough to make our house a home for us. It’s the way he cleans the kitchen up after supper while I give Noah a bath or either he gives Noah the bath and I clean…that way I’m not stuck doing everything after dinner is over and we both get to relax in the evenings.
It’s the way he does leave his work at work and doesn’t drag it home with him. There are so many men [and women] who bring their careers home with them and don’t optimize the time they have together with their families. And I am so grateful that my husband looks so forward to being with us when his job is over. It’s the way we act like children when we battle each other in a game of Uno. It’s the way we play and laugh together, and play with our son together. Whether it be playing in the park or playing ball in the house, or playing a game of tag/chase all over the house. It’s the fun we share that keeps the spirit alive in our marriage.
Sure, we have our frustrations with one another and we have moments where we could quite literally ring one anothers neck; but it goes away quickly. If I have learned anything in the almost 2 years that we have been married, it’s that you have to laugh at things and let them go. You can’t hold grudges and bring up mistakes from the past every time you have a small arguement. You will never overcome anything, feelings will be hurt and slowly your relationship will be ripped apart at the seams.
Lastly, keeping GOD first and at the center of things is glue that holds our entire marriage together. We may not always sit and read the Bible together or do devotionals together. We may not pray with one another every single night [as we should, as a husband and wife and parents], but we both keep GOD first. We both have relationships-growing relationships-with our Father and that reflects within our marriage. We put him first, followed by one another, and then our son. We have common goals: to serve God in whatever way he sees fit, to keep a strong healthy home for our son to grow up in, and to grow old together. Side by Side. That little old couple walking down the side walk hand in hand…the ones that you look at and can see that they are as in love today-at 80 something years old, as they were when they were 18.
Pop on over to Sheila’s to see what other wives are saying and link up your own post.
Courtney Kirkland is a Southeast Alabama Writer & Designer. Since 2008, Courtney has passionately provided beautiful, intentional design to small businesses & bloggers and encouraged thousands to walk in a rich faith in any situation.