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  1. I knew from the start I’d never be a bloggy star and I’ve never tried to be that. I blog because I like writing and it’s a great way to document my children (including taking photos and videos, something I wasn’t very good at in my firstborn’s 1st year). It’s also allowed me to connect with moms just like me and that’s one of the greatest things about blogging for me. So no stardom, book deals, or a Babble writing gig, but I have my space, my words, my pictures, my memories and my friends.

    May you have much of the same and more. 🙂

  2. I’ve tried reaching for bloggy stardom and tons of views, tons of comments but it just doesn’t happen for me either. What do I have though, are loyal and faithful readers who have become my friends. There aren’t many of them but damn am I appreciative of them.

    To me, you are awesome, bloggy fame or no bloggy fame. When I found you I knew you were already well liked and respected…and quite talented to boot! That; to me, carries a lot more weight than being popular.

    I wish you the best of success with your endeavors. Hopefully you’ll still blog from time to time once Baby #2 makes his/her debut. I want to see pics of the little one!

    • Courtney says:

      Yep. I’ve been there and done that. I took a few weeks once just to SEE how much I could make my site grow in a short period of time…and let me just say that I admire ANYONE who blogs full time and makes a successful living from it. Because blogging for business is a JOB. Reading and commenting on other blogs, doing the social media stuff, etc. is full time and I literally don’t have that kind of time to devote anymore.

      I would rather devote all of that time to other things the that I really want to make a go at…like finishing the novel I started on and being with my family. I’ll definitely keep blogging but I’ve decided that I’m going to blog when I have something to say or share. And you can guarantee that Baby #2 will be just as prominent on this blog as Noah always has been. 🙂

  3. Laura says:

    Oh phew! I saw your Facebook post linking this blog post right before I walked out the door and I worried you might be quitting blogging. We became friends through blogging and I like to keep up with you this way too! 🙂

    I totally understand. There are so many places you can (try to) take your blog. Is it going to make money? Is it going to make you famous? Is it going to help you reach out and connect with other people? Is it just for you? I constantly struggle with what I want to say, how often I want to say it, and how much effort I want it to take up in my life. I struggle with opportunities to make it a total advertising space – sure I can make money selling the header space and the background space and the sidebar space for advertising… but is that what I want? I am considering adding some ads, but of products I fully believe in, or of friends’ businesses that I want to draw attention to.

    I can’t blog every day. I’m really trying to just blog once a week. I think I have really narrowed down on my “brand” and what I want to write about – and I like being constrained to write in such a way. And I love it. I love blogging. I love connecting. It is my thing – but when it gets to be too much, I back off. It isn’t my top priority. Being unbelievably popular isn’t my top priority. Reaching Mamas and empowering them through my stories is my priority on my blog.

    All that to say (ahem, sorry it is so long… I might be using this as an excuse to get a slight break from the whole parenting gig), glad you’re not going anywhere!

    • Courtney says:

      That’s the point I’ve reached. I know that I can’t blog every day. And not only that, but I don’t WANT to. I don’t want to feel forced to blog every time I turn around. I think, like you said, it’s a matter of figuring out exactly what you want to do and how you want to go about writing your blog and sticking with it. I love connecting with the readers that pop in over here and chat. I love encouraging other people in their ambitions (be it photography or starting a business) or just offering encouragement for the day to day. But, I can’t force myself to do it anymore.

  4. Barbie says:

    I love your blog and I love what you share — photos (beautiful) and about your life. I think it’s healthy to step back and reevaluate from time to time. I have never tried to grow my bog, but through building community with other bloggers, it’s sort of grown itself. Still relatively small, but manageable for me! Thankful you are going to continue blogging for you!

    • Courtney says:

      Thank you so much, Barbie! I could never stop blogging completely. I have worked too hard to make this little space my own and I love being able to document our family here (it’s much easier to me than scrapbooking). I just need the reminder every once in a while that I blog for ME and not everyone else.

  5. April says:

    I know sometimes it feels like blogging has to be “all or nothing.” We’re overachievers, perfectionists, and if we’re not the best (or close to it) it feels like we’re failures. I’m not in a position to give you advice really, but I hope you know that it’s okay to take a break, and come back to it later!

    • Courtney says:

      You and I are certainly kindred spirits. Because I’m definitely an all or nothing type person. Not doing something the best that I can drives me bananas. I think that’s why slowing down, stepping back and blogging a little less frequently is going to be a nice change for me. I’ll have more time to devote to REALLY writing the kind of posts I want to write. 🙂

  6. Sigh. Yes. I can’t do it as things stand now, but accepting that it’s not what you want is a good start. I still struggle with that.

    And it’s not a failure. You are so true to yourself and you represent your lives beautifully. That’s something to be proud of.

    • Courtney says:

      Thank you, Robin! I don’t think I could ever STOP blogging completely. I love having this space to look back on and see my son grow up and how our lives have changed. But, realizing that I can’t blog for everyone else and that I don’t WANT to spend all of my time pushing my writing out there for the Social Media gurus is a big relief. I feel like a weight has been lifted and that I can sit down in this space and just be, without the pressures of appealing to the masses.

  7. Anna says:

    I think I blog for me alone. I’m pretty sure I only have one person that looks at my blog and I appreciate that and do love her comments but I did not even know there was a top 100 bloggers list! lol I want a space to “pretend” to share stuff but I don’t have a clear focus so when I do blog, I’m happy that no one really looks because I might look silly. It is a nice little place that is mine and when I get around to blogging, I know it is there and it is my story. I love following your blog because it is so REAL!! Thanks for sharing.

    Anna

    • Courtney says:

      I think you have the right idea, Anna! I feel like over time I’ve become more “aware” of what I write because I do have so many people who read it. I admire the writers who can dump their heart into their site without feeling any sense of regret or repercussion for it. But, like I mentioned, there are just some things that I want to keep private. Things that I journal in my paper, old fashioned journal. While I love more than anything that some day this blog will have documented our lives, I would rather spend time continuing to capture that and pursuing a type of writing that I want to do long term…like finishing a novel.

  8. molly says:

    I can relate to this totally and completely. Especially the top 100 bloggers list. Oh I’ve had some accomplishments that I’m proud of in my little space. But I have no ideas of success or fame or whatever. And as my boys grow I find it harder to blog about them and our challenges. It was easier when they were babies. Just stay true to yourself.

    • Courtney says:

      Thank you, Molly. I think another thing that I have in the back of my mind, too is how much I want to continue to share about Noah as he gets older. I never want to be one of those parents who posts things that would potentially be embarrassing to him or cause him issues when he’s older. Hope you’re feeling better! I saw that you’ve been under the weather. 🙁

  9. Amy Willa says:

    I can relate! You know, I finally got to this point where I realized: I’m never going to be Pioneer Woman or Dooce or even CodeName:Mama (my attachment parenting goddess friend) or Dana of MADE (the handmade goddess in my book!) . . . but I’m ME and that’s something. Quite a few friends from high school have been following my blog and I’ve inspired them to be empowered and educated about parenting topics, and I think that’s really neat. But then I log in to my blog and see no new comments and that makes me kind of sad.

    So, if my blog is even inspiring one person or making one person’s day with a story of how imperfect people can find peace and empowerment in this crazy world, then I’ll keep writing.

    But like you said, we have to decide HOW we want to write, and whether memes and themes and link ups and popularity are important, or if they’re just a cool side effect of being US 😉

    I look forward to connecting with you as often as you feel compelled to write. As a fellow Coast Guard wife and a mom to two, I feel connected with you through our shared experiences, and I love your writing style!

    • Courtney says:

      You are so right, Amy! I try to keep that mindset as well. I’ve been told several times over the last four years that I inspire my readers because of my business or my photography or whathaveyou. And that’s awesome. I could never LEAVE this little place on the inter webs. I just think that reevaluating and deciding where to go from here in the coming months is what has been on my mind. 🙂

  10. Dalia says:

    Hi Courtney,
    I hate to see you go, I know that I may have only commented once if I remember correctly, but I enjoy your blog. I completely understand and can relate in a way. I’ve been contemplating the same for weeks now. I may have to join on that as well. Good luck and congrats on your coming baby. Be blessed.

    • Courtney says:

      I’m not leaving my blog behind, just changing my perspective a bit. I couldn’t leave it. I have poured so much of myself into it over the years that calling it quits and leaving this place empty would be heart breaking. I think, though, that after 4 years it was just time to re-evaluate. 🙂

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