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Supreme Court or Supreme God?

June 29, 2015

I’m just going to dive in and say it…

The Supreme Court’s ruling on Friday was monumental. No matter which way you look at it, which perspective you take or from whose “side” you are on.

I have friends of every sexual orientation. One of the groomsmen in our wedding was a homosexual. I remember family members “threatening” to not attend our wedding if we were insistent on having a “gay guy” standing in the church when we exchanged vows. We chose to have him stand with us anyway. And the church didn’t burn down nor did lightning strike him dead.

I sat beside a guy in college for three semesters who was homosexual. He wanted to be an editor and had the most intellectual understanding of British Literature that I’ve ever heard. My cousin, who’s a few years younger than me, is homosexual. He’s a paramedic and one of the kindest people I’ve ever met in my life.

Placing the label “homosexual” on someone doesn’t mean that they are any less loved by Jesus Christ nor that they are incapable of receiving His love.
Jesus Hates Sin
He doesn’t hate people.

I’ve said it before, I am the very least of these. I have stolen. I have lied. I have committed murder in my mind. I have committed adultery in my heart. I have been envious and greedy and glutenous. I have used the Lord’s name in vain. I have failed to honor the Sabbath. I have been an alcoholic. I have had sex before I was married and with men I wasn’t married to. I was pregnant before I got married. I have strung together words and sentences filled with expletives just because that’s what you “do” when you’re a rebellious teenager. I have looked at pornography and read pornography (according to the perspective that 50 Shades of Grey is pornography).

I am a sinner.
I’ve committed every sin that God told us not to commit.

And I am no better than anyone else.

While I personally believe that God himself ordained marriage to be between a man and a woman…I will never, ever condemn or ridicule or mock or inflict mental, emotional or physical harm on someone who does not agree with my personal views on marriage.

And here is why…

I serve a mighty God who has called us to love one another. I’m not going into debate on the Old Testament Covenant and the New Testament Covenant and the belief that once Christ died for our sin that we don’t have to live by the laws of the Old Testament and all of that. It’s not even necessary.

I’ve learning in my 20-something years of life two things:

  • You cannot force your religion or your beliefs on anyone else.

That’s just all there is to it. I grew up in the church. I went to Sunday School, Sunday sermon’s, Wednesday night fellowship…every time the doors were open, I was there. I knew God, knew the main points of the Bible, knew the commandments and knew what was expected of me. When I got to college I met some people who did not believe the same thing that I did and practiced different religions. I saw plenty of Christians waving tracts around campus and beating them over the head with their Bibles (figuratively of course) trying to covert them.

Guess what? It didn’t work.

Forcing your belief, no matter what that may be, on someone isn’t the way to get them or anyone else to understand, take interest or even be willing to hear you out.

A homosexual coming to me and demanding that I hear them out or waving flyers or photos or banners in my face telling me that I have to believe or I’m destined to be persecuted or condemned wouldn’t get a response from me. Other than just getting me to walk away in a hurry.

Christianity is no different. Spewing scripture about damnation and hell and the lake of fire isn’t going to convert anyone or make anyone turn away from their lifestyle. It just isn’t. And that goes for any kind of sin. You cannot help anyone until they are ready to help themselves. Alcoholics, drug addicts, pornography addicts, women being beaten by their husbands/boyfriends, those committing adultery…until they want out of their lifestyle, they will remain where they are.

While you may not agree with the lifestyle, we are called to love.

Jim Daly, the President of Focus on the Family said it best:

In the days to come, we must remember to season our words with salt. It’s time to be a light in these dark times. It is not time to be combative and caustic. Now, more than ever, we must emulate Jesus Christ. We must continue to show that loving kindness as we talk with our neighbors and friends who see this issue differently (src).

We don’t all have to agree. It is entirely possible to love a person and disagree with their lifestyle. We’ve been doing it for generations now. I don’t agree with the lifestyles of those who choose to smoke around their children. But, that doesn’t mean that I’m going to start condemning them to hell or telling them how terrible they are or that they are subjecting their children to the possibility of lung cancer.

Jesus Christ ate and socialized and associated with tax collectors during his time…and at that point they were considered the worst of the worst. But, Jesus loved them anyway.

I may not agree with the homosexual lifestyle, but that’s okay. Because they may not agree with me. They may not agree with the fact that I post pictures of my children online or that I openly talk about things that so many are opinionated about. They may not agree with the fact that I voted against Obama.

But that’s ok!

The other thing I’ve learned is simply this…

  • God is God. Today, tomorrow, forever. I, on the other hand, AM NOT.

And it’s been made quite clear many times over in scripture that we are in no way worthy of passing judgement or ridiculing anyone else. Jesus makes it abundantly clear in James 4:12

There is only one lawgiver and judge, he who is able to save and to destroy. But who are you to judge your neighbor?

When I die and stand before the Lord, I’m not going to have to give an account for what everyone else on this Earth has done. No more than I will get credit for the works that other people have done. I will have to answer for myself…for my wrong doings, for my sins and transgressions and for how I treated people around me.

Which means that I have to do the best I can with the life that I’m given and answer for this life when it’s over. I can not judge the actions of others, because I have too many sins in my own life to worry about the sins of everyone else.

So, what does all of this mean for Christians?

It’s time that we step up and show the world that Jesus is still the Almighty. That his laws far outweigh the laws of man. We’ve known from the beginning of the ages that these days were coming. That Jesus would be pushed to the back burner, the nation would fall into moral depravity and that the Devil himself would invade our land.

But, Clayton Jennings even points out…homosexuality isn’t the main issue in this world.

Immoral politicians, greed, genocide, human trafficking, ISIS, religious persecution overseas and within our own land, hate crimes, racism, rape, the influx in pornography, murder…those are the things that we should be focusing on.

Homosexuality has been legal in other parts of the world for a long time now. I don’t believe that the nation is going to go under because of the legalization of gay marriage. I may be wrong, and that’s fine. I may have to answer for my opinion on this to family, friends and church members. And that’s fine. I may have to account for this blog post when I’m standing in front of Jesus himself someday because I didn’t post a huge sermon stating that, “all gays are going to hell.” And if I do, I’ll just chalk that up to the other long list of things that I have to be accountable for in this life.

Because I know in my heart that Jesus would want me to love. Would want me to tell someone, gay or straight, “Hey…Jesus Christ loves you. And he died for you. And he can help you through whatever situation you’re battling.”

Because Jesus knew temptation. He knew what it was like to literally stare down the devil himself and have to walk away. And he did it. And then he spread his arms out on a cross and told God to forgive us because we didn’t know what we were doing.

And we still don’t.

But what I do know is this, Jesus said in 1 Corinthians 13:13

And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

roadcalledlifeMy prayer is that my fellow Christians, those who truly seek to follow Christ, wouldn’t turn their back on the LGBT community right now. Because all we are going to do, if we do that, is prove to the world what so many already think of us…that we are bigots who believe we are better than everyone else because of what we believe. I’d love nothing more than to see more members of the gay community welcomed with open arms into the churches.

Then, and only then…but demonstrating the love of Jesus Christ, will we lead others to the cross.

You just have to decide where you want to place your faith: in the Supreme Court…or in the Supreme God.

As for me and my house…we’ve chosen the Supreme God.

What are your thoughts on the Court’s decision about Gay Marriage?
As a Christian, how are YOU going to respond to it?
As a homosexual, how do you hope that Christians react toward it?
  1. Mary Grohs says:

    Something that has occurred to me lately, with all this talk of love (#lovewins), is that God’s love is intense and absolute and final. When asked how we should pray, Jesus gave us the Lord’s prayer, which teaches us to say, “Not my will, but Thy will be done.” A profound thought in light of these recent days. God loves us so much that He would not force His will on us, though that would far exceed the wretched lives we choose for ourselves. God loves us so much that he will not force us to spend eternity with Him. If we prefer separation from God in this life, in the end, to each who has chosen not God’s will, but his own, I expect many will hear the Lord say, “Not My will, but thy will be done.” God loves us that much. In the end, God’s love will win…everytime. Either we take it, or we leave it.

  2. Deb says:

    Simply awesome, but caused me again to sin….I covet your writings, I wish I had written them, and could claim them as my own.

  3. Elvira says:

    This was my response based upon Gods word:

    My brothers and sisters in Christ – Thankfully our God is a God of love (John 3:16, John 15:13, 1 John 4:9), so much so that he sent his son Jesus to die on the cross for our sins, so that we could have eternal life through the repentance of our sin and acceptance of His gift of salvation. (He 9:26, Luke 19:10, Rom 10: 9-14, Acts 2:38, Rom 5:8, 1 John 3:5, 2 Cor 5:21). Our God also calls us to love one another (Mark 12:31, 1 Peter 4:8, 1 John 4:7-21, 1 John 3:17-18).

    God has many attributes and though he is a God of love, the God of the Bible is also a jealous God (Exodus 34:14, Deut 4:24, 6:15) and a God of truth and anger/judgement that sent a flood during Noah’s time and wiped out the land, sent an angel to slay 185k soldiers, rained fire and plague against the Israelites, destroyed Sodom & Gomorrah, sent 10 plagues against the Pharaoh and people of Egypt, and will reign destruction on the earth after the rapture/2nd coming of Christ – the lake of fire. There are many more examples throughout scripture of the wrath of God against His creation. (Rom 1:16-32) (“The wrath of God is His eternal detestation of all unrighteousness. It is the displeasure and indignation of Divine equity against evil. It is the holiness of God stirred into activity against sin. Go is angry against sin because it is a rebelling against His authority, a wrong done to His inviolable sovereignty…..We find that God has made no attempt to conceal the fact of His wrath. He is not ashamed to make it known that vengeance and fury belong unto Him.” (A.W. Pink “The Attributes of God”)

    We ALL sin and fall short of the Glory of God, but the amazing thing is that God is also a God of grace and mercy and forgives our sins if we confess with our mouth, repent, and seek forgiveness (1 John 1:9, Rom 3:23, Acts 3:19, Acts 8:22, Rom 3). Jesus paid the ultimate price for our sins – the good news is that all sins are forgivable except for not accepting the gift of salvation (Matt 12:31). As new creations in Christ, God has a standard that he holds us to and calls us to live by as evident in His Word, requiring that we be set apart (Gal 5:19-21, Eph 2:1-22, 1 John 2:4-6, Rom 8;13, 2 Peter 1:5-8, 1 John 2:16, Rom 6:1-23, Rom 12: 1-2, 2 Cor 5:15-21, John 8:1, Job 11:13-20, Gen 4:7, Daniel 9:13) God is clear that he will be the ultimate judge and we will individually be held accountable for our life and sins (1 John 2:15-17,2 Cor 5:10, Romans 2:5-12, 1 Cor 6:9-11, 1 Peter 4:5, Acts 10:42, Rev 20:11-15, Rom 14:1-23). Although God is the ultimate judge, remember that we as Christians should adhere to His Word and speak in LOVE and TRUTH (1 John 4:1-6, Gal 5:16), not of hate nor our own truth, opinion, water-downed version of his Words, but His truth as declared in His Word – that is our responsibility – to spread the gospel of the good news, share the Love of Christ, and share the truth of the gospel and His word so that none should perish. Let us start by loving one another as Christ loves us and then sharing the good news of salvation and leading people to the cross! I am so thankful for the Lord’s love, grace, and mercy and I am joyful that he has forgiven me and paid the price for even me – a sinner.

  4. Alia says:

    Yes! Exactly. We should only be worrying about loving like Jesus. Great post girl.

  5. Emilio Velez says:

    Before Jesus died on the cross for all, He said “Father forgive them for they know not what they are doing”. I believe it is the same with this ruling, they know not, but we on ther other hand should know what has been commanded of us, to Love one another. Jesus came for the sinners, ‘All Sinners’. This is not a battle of flesh and blood. What saddens me is the behaviors of those so called brothers and sister. It is their actions that will be judged. What would Jesus do. Shame on all those counterfeits christians giving a bad reputation to those who stand in obedience to God. We need to be mindful of our behaviors, actions, and words. The world is watching. Who are you really representing. We are to love on another is the greatest command.

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