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Finding Validation

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  1. Mindy says:

    Courtney, I’ve never read your blog before, but just happened upon it tonight. I am a graphic designer too, and I also mainly design blogs. Let me just say that I know exactly where you are coming from 🙂 A few weeks ago I was talking to my sister-in-law and she was asking me about what I do. After I was done telling her about it, she said in a very doubtful voice, “And so people actually pay you for that?”. I just had to smile and say yes.

    So I want you to know that your work is 100% validated by me and although it may not feel like it, many many others as well 🙂 Keep working hard to make the internet a prettier place.

    We should start a support group for this 😉

  2. Elaine A. says:

    You make a really good point about those who don’t REALLY understand what you do and how much time and energy you put into it. I am glad you feel validation in other ways, but I wish you could feel it all the way around. And I will say that I think your work is wonderful! xo

  3. Ellen says:

    Chiming in to say I completely understand! Part of it is compounded, I think, when I have to explain the value/worth of what I do to someone who has never thought of this as a “career” before. It’s so frustrating. I say keep talking about what you do — clearly, loudly — it’s important. And how could anyone not look at your beautiful site and all the work poured into it and think you do “nothing” beyond be at home with your kids?

  4. Jennifer says:

    I don’t know why exactly, but that photo is kinda sexy. Sorry. I know that has absolutely nothing to do with this post.

  5. AMEN. That is all, just AMEN.

  6. Alison says:

    I get this. I absolutely do. In a way, it’s my own fault. I don’t give myself enough credit, I don’t talk myself up. I don’t show enough confidence in my business for others to validate me.

    But you, Courtney, you do great work. I wish that the people outside of your clientele, can just dive in online to see the beautiful work you’ve created, and read all the wonderful testimonials (including mine!) of what you do.

  7. Jessica says:

    Completely Understand, and I often feel the same exact way!


    Wow wow wow. well you know I freaking love your guts and appreciate all that you do 🙂

  9. Great article! You couldn’t have gotten it more right. I constantly feel like that too (with my field). Even though I’m not a mom, and I’m not able to stay at home (yet), I know exactly how you feel. But now, I feel validated every time I make a blog post, page, or learn about a plug-in. It’s those little successes that keep me going. I have my eyes on a bigger prize. : )

  10. {{hugs}}

    I don’t do quite the same work as you — but, as a blogger, I understand. I hem and haw when people ask what I do — I do legitimate work and bring legitimate money to our family… but I get tired of explaining things or being made to feel like a grifter. And, it is hard being self-employed — especially in a virtual world — because there aren’t any accolades or certificates given out for our work.

    Sorry. 🙁

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Courtney Kirkland is a Southeast Alabama Writer & Designer. Since 2008, Courtney has passionately provided beautiful, intentional design to small businesses & bloggers and encouraged thousands to walk in a rich faith in any situation.