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Did I ask for your Advice? | Guest Post by Jessica

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  1. ha ha ha oh my gosh if that doesn’t sound like my story when i was pregnant with Cohen! I actually had a co-worker tell me I shouldn’t eat the side of cheetos (they were BAKED) because that’s how i’ll gain 60lbs! The nerve! Oh – this same co-worker also told me in my 3rd trimester that I better be eating protein or else my baby will come out stupid! And she was a TEACHER FOLKS! So nuts. Anyway, great post girlie! Love it 🙂

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  3. This post made me LAUGH out loud……..more than once. You are right in saying we have all been there.
    My son was colicky with Acid Reflux and did not want anyone else to hold him, but my husband or myself for the first 4 months. It was TOUGH!!!! Those people who gave me advice or thought I was doing something wrong HURT my feelings so bad, because I knew I was doing everything I knew how.

    In hindsight, I wish I would have looked at some of them and said, “I am ticking time bomb and you are almost the last tick.” It would have provided me a good LAUGH to confirm their thoughts that I was CRAZY :0

    The great thing is I can’t even remember most of the things people said. And now I am very careful to give unsolicited advice. I just wait for someone to ask me for my advice or if they are acting like they want advice I will say, “Do you want my input?”

    Thanks for a great post Jessica!!

  4. Kimberly says:

    Great post, and it’s so true! I hated (and still do) all of the unwanted advice! But I love the suggestion of telling the cashier what they’re doing wrong! 😉

  5. Jessica says:

    Thanks so much for letting me guest post today COURT! Oh and thanks for the wonderful intro :).
    Can’t wait for you to make your mark on my blog!

  6. Kathryn says:

    Great post! I cannot tell you how many opinions I have gotten to the point of where I have been very offended. I have blogged about it too, and people there will give me advice too. The worst advice was when I blogged about not being able to breastfeed, and someone told me that formula was poison and I should make my own. I was shocked! I have made it a goal to tell moms-to-be or friends that if they want any advice or are unsure to free to ask me any questions. Other than that I don’t give any advice I just listen!

  7. I totally am with you on the unsolicited advice! My MIL, God love her, is the absolute worst. From the time Noah was born, she was CONSTANTLY telling us to give him rice cereal. And this is a child that started STTN without it at around 8 weeks (he was going from ~10:30 p.m.-4:30 a.m. without a bottle at that point, and now at 18 weeks he goes 7:30 p.m. to 6:30 a.m. — WITHOUT the cereal). I finally had to get a little ugly with her on Skype, and she finally stopped saying it. But she still has some comment about what we need to be doing differently every time he cries or fusses. I know she means well, but it’s so aggravating!

    One of my favorite pieces of “advice” when I was pregnant: My doctor’s RECEPTIONIST told me that because I ate Cinnamon Toast Crunch for breakfast I was going to have a huge baby. Uh, excuse me? Where did you get that medical degree from again?!

    Of course, I need to improve my advice-giving filter, too, because I have a bad habit of offering unsolicited advice to pregnant women or those with newborns, but it’s typically more emotion-related and encouraging rather than specific things that “should” or “shouldn’t” do.

  8. Life As Wife says:

    My little man has a shirt that says “my mom doesn’t want your advice!” it’s hilarious and oh so true!

  9. Ashley Sisk says:

    What a great guest post…I found it funny but honest.

  10. Mandi says:

    I don’t even know if I could pick some of the advice I got when I was pregnant… oh wait YES I DO! Well, it really happened after I had Maddy. I had a c-section with her (not planned) and only a few weeks after bringing her home someone told me I should fight for a VBAC the next time because c-sections are wrong! Um… I was thinking can I just get through this baby first?!

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